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Pray with Your Partner
All Scripture is God-breathed and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the person of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16-17 NHEB)
Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. (Col 4:2)
Think of prayer as the thread of unity of your love. Prayer is like a window into your mate’s heart and life. By weaving prayer into your everyday life together, God hems your lives together, “stitch by stitch”, prayer by prayer. So make prayer a priority to protect your love:
Daily: Each day, we share our prayer requests and pray as a family, and then as a couple, usually privately as we hug good-bye for our days responsibilities we will hug and pray for each other before we kiss and send each other on to the path God has for each of us. Over each meal we share, we pray grace, then kiss each other. It is a romantic ritual that has added passion and power to our 40+ year marriage. Most days, after dinner, we will stroll hand in hand and have a prayer walk. The advantage of a prayer walk is that you get closer to God, your mate and thinner—at the same time! Then each night, before we drift off to sleep, curl up in each other’s arms and pray thanksgiving and praise over the day God has given us, and we commit any questions, drama or hurts to our Father in Heaven.
Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. (Jer 29:12)
Weekly: We bring to our Monday Morning Marriage Meet Up a verse or a few verses to pray over each other, our marriage and the planning meeting for our marriage and family. Typically, these verses come across our path naturally. We may have heard them in a sermon. We might have gleaned them from a message we taught, a quiet time devotional or Bible study. Or, we may have encountered them on Christian radio, podcasts, magazines or books. At other times, we will search the internet on a subject of interest to gain strategic Biblical insight. In our experience, the verse(s) we each bring to the Marriage Meet Ups have become a stable foundation for the meeting, a healing balm to some turbulent circumstance or stressful situation we might be going through. The Word may be the best gift you can give your mate that week.
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” (Matt 26:41)
Yearly: We each select a Word of the Year and a Verse of the Year. We make a poster, or have it engraved on mugs, or place the verse on a refrigerator magnet or key fob and we commit to praying that verse for each other all year, either in our daily Quiet Time or when we see the prayer prompt, or we set it as the password for our phone or computer, or as our phone wall paper. Some years, we opt to have the same Word and Verse of the Year. (You can download a Couple’s Your Best Year Yet goal and prayer sheet at www.Love-wise.com)
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. (Psalm 145:18)
Your Marriage Meet Up
In our book, Marriage Meet Ups, we share more ways to weave prayer into your marriage. For example, often people have an “our song”. We also have an “our verse”. It was inscribed on our wedding gifts to each other: “We love because He [God] first loved us.” (1 John 4:19) Perhaps, begin or deepen your prayer life together by taking a prayer walk, and talk about possible “our verses”, select one, then buy or have something made with that verse on it and hang it in your home as a prayer prompt for your love and marriage.
Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, authors of 50+ books including bestselling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti and their newest, Marriage Meet Ups: Planner for Couples Who Want a Productive, Passionate and Purposeful Life. The Farrels are the Co-Directors of Love-Wise.com . They are parents to 3 sons, love their 3 daughter in loves, and their 5 grandkids. The Farrels also love beach prayer walks and pre-pandemic, they lived on a live aboard boat docked in Southern Ca.